i think that is a very privileged position… choice feminism doesn’t sit well with me because there are so many women in the world who truly don’t have the choice to do any number of the banal things that some people act like are the pinnacle of feminist choice, or who can do those things but have much more pressing issues that feminism needs to address. to me feminism is about ending gender-based oppression. that involves the choice to be a stay at home mom, wear makeup, etc, and i will defend your right to do these things and i will hate the assholes who say that doing these things makes you a bad feminist or worthy of scorn. HOWEVER, that is not all feminism is. it’s a small part of it. choice feminism will be relevant to my definition of feminism when rape culture is eliminated, when women of all races make $1 for every $1 men make, when violence against our trans sisters ends, when every woman is easily able to have safe preganancies or abortions.
i also think that the idea that feminism is about choice kind of takes away the critical thinking surrounding doing problematic things… i mean of course i participate in plenty of things that choice feminism loves, but i like to think that i think about these things critically and do my best to make sure that my sisters don’t feel they have to do these things, rather than taking part in them and turning a blind eye to the fact that just because i’m making the choice doesn’t mean they’re free from issues. you can wear makeup, shave, etc, and that is your choice, but it’s hard to separate these things from patriarchal pressure and choice feminism can often act as a smokescreen to not examine these practices. again, i do think you should be able to participate in these things (duh, i love makeup), but we have to recognize where they’re coming from, as well as the fact that for some women these practices don’t feel like a choice. some women wear makeup, shave, and stop working to raise children because THEY HAVE TO (or feel like they do). that’s bs and i want feminism to be more critical of that. i’m not saying choice feminists can’t ever take the perspective i do surrounding these issues, but a lot of the time ~it’s my choice~ is used to obscure what i’ve just mentioned.
i don’t like the individualism of choice feminism. not every personal choice you make is a feminist choice. not every personal choice you make is either feminist or anti-feminist. some people need to stop acting like the be all end all of feminism is the ability for them to be able to do whatever they want and call it a feminist choice. not every choice made by a woman is feminist. some choices made by women are actively anti-feminist. women can participate in sexist, misogynistic, and anti-feminist actions, and just because they make that “choice” doesn’t make it any less sexist, misogynistic, or anti-feminist. feminism is more collective than that to me. of course the ability for every woman to make the choices that suit her is important, but i think feminism should be more about helping and uplifting women as a whole instead of enabling individual women (usually women who are already fairly privileged) to do whatever they want.
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Kate Nash behind the scenes of her OMYGOD! music video shoot, 2012 [x]
why do they keep pushing broad city as the “female workaholics”………like yeah theyre p similar but lets stop trying to pigeon hole everything into “female versions” of something men do and let the show stand on its own
who cares look at julian casablancas
me in any situation: im too pretty for this